Everyone feels all these emotions, but the dichotomy of strong verses weak that is ingrained in us from an early age is ever present and presides over much of our thought processes. Emotions, though we cannot control them, are a forceful factor in how we manage our lives. Though they can cause one to become irrational and throw fits of rage, spiral into bouts of depression, or just an overall numbness from an overload of feelings, feelings itself make life worthwhile. If this is the case, then why are so many people afraid to come forth with their emotions and be open about how they feel?
Contrary to popular belief, feelings come from a place of logic rather than irrationality, as they are messages are brain is trying to send us regarding the situations we are placed in. Allowing yourself to experience them to the fullest extent is not only placing you in an assertive mindset and making you the key player in the story of your life, but it is also allowing you to feel alive. Talking about the way you feel is not emasculating, rather it is a feat all its own. Owning up to your emotions can minimize the problems in your life that are causing them. In fact, not giving your feelings the power they merit encapsulates you in a cycle of trauma, and you may never alleviate the negative emotions you do not let yourself experience. It is understandable that most people favor the rational over emotional, but emotional mastery is something we should all strive for.
"If we can accept the idea that each emotion exists
for a reason, then we can find the value that each emotion provides to
us. Finding this value may allow us to understand our feelings and
express them in more adaptive ways. The expression of anger does not
have to involve yelling or violence, sadness does not have to involve
crying, fear does not have to involve hiding or avoiding. If we listen to our emotions, and understand what our emotions mean, we can respect them and their intensity often fades." -Erik Fisher, Ph.D. Many people are afraid of being vulnerable, but your vulnerable self is your true self, and if you are afraid of your true self, then you have some things to work on. Through the use of purely logic, many of us feel we can shield ourselves from pain and distress, but that itself is exuding an excess amount of fear. One does not cloud judgement with emotions, but without them. What you should fear is lack of balance. We should use our emotions as a starting point, and balance them out with logical processes. It is important to never dive emotionally overboard, and at the same time, to allow yourself to be guided the way you feel.
Ask yourself why you feel the way you do.But more importantly, let yourself feel the way you do.
My mom really believes in the quote in the beginning of this. My sister is always really grumpy just because she is a typical teenage girl who is the last one left at home (I'd probably be grumpy too haha). My mom always tells her to smile because after a few minutes of smiling, my mom believes that you will actually become happy. It always works for my sister.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I am a truly emotional person (like all the time) and i feel like it really helps to be able to express my emotions.
I actually read that smiling does make you happier for some reason that I forgot or just never understood because it's too science related for me. I think expressing emotions is very important and more people have to learn how to be expressive rather than repress them like we're taught our whole lives to do. Building up stress and negative feelings is emotionally and physically unhealthy.
DeleteI think emotions can be good but at the same time need to be balanced in life and sometimes need to be ignored. For example maybe someone is making me angry and I want to lash out, but in this situation it would be better to try to ignore that emotion of anger and just move past it.
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